You keep pushing to make it happen, even while your body is telling you to stop. You make the plans, clear the schedule, and order the supplies, and then your body overrides all of it. Now you are disappointed, and part of you feels like you are missing a lifetime opportunity while another part is still fighting to take back control.
If that is you, I want you to know that fighting surrender only makes the message louder, more intense, and more powerful. By the end of this post, I want you to see what surrender actually is, why nothing you have been through is wrong, and how you can be held in the unknown without needing the plan, even when everything is asking you to let go and begin again.
My Own Surrender: Burning It All to the Ground
When I moved to Sedona in 2023 and bought a brick and mortar business, I thought things were going to unfold in a certain way. They didn’t. What followed was a massive surrender that reached everything: what I thought I was doing with the new business, my business, the podcast that came with it, and my own podcast.
I burned it all to the ground, and I got clear that the core foundation of my work is Ecstatic Empath, supporting women to recognize their sensitivity as their superpower and to take courageous action to share their power in the world.
This is not a happily ever after. We are crossing the threshold of completing a massive chapter and knowing the next chapter is my unapologetic era, and I’m walking into it without knowing exactly what it looks like.
What you’re about to hear is an episode on surrender that I originally released before any of this unfolded. It’s another story of letting go of control, from a different season of my life, and the invitation in it is the same one I’m living right now.
That invitation to let go of control is the teaching I want to walk you through here, because it holds whether you are facing a canceled plan, a body that says no, or a life reset that asks you to rebuild from the ground up.
Why Fighting Surrender Makes the Message Louder
When I recorded this episode, I had been invited on a four day overnight river trip where I could not control the plan and could not go without a guide. I wanted to go badly. I cleared my schedule and ordered my supplies, and in the meantime my allergies got out of control. I lost my voice, and I was not sure I would be well enough to go.
The part of me that wanted to push and make it happen was activated and fighting for control, and my body was overriding that drive. My mind knew that fighting would only make the message louder, and the fight response was still pushing hard. I want you to notice that this is how it works for many of us. The harder we fight what is happening, the more insistent the invitation to surrender becomes.
What Surrender Actually Is
Surrender is being with what is, without resisting it and without the desire to make it different. It means releasing the fight and flowing with the life force instead of bracing against it.
Being human is challenging. It is not right or wrong, success or failure, dark or light. It is the path your soul chose, and part of that path is learning to sit with what is.
You Have Done Nothing Wrong
Underneath the fight, there is often a belief that you have to get it right in order to be held. I want to offer you a different truth: you have done nothing wrong, no matter what you have experienced.
Love is not a reward for doing good or being what others expect.
Love is presence with what is. Fear, doubt, and traumatic experience are not too much for it. Nothing in you is too much to be held, and being held is what allows these experiences to integrate.
Letting Go of Who You Thought You Were
Surrender asks us to let go of control, and it also asks us to let go of who we thought we were so we can be who we are. I know this personally from watching my old businesses, offers, and vision fall away and finding the foundation underneath them. That kind of life reset starts with surrender, and I could not have forced it.
Rebirth: Giving Yourself the Love You Wish You Had Received
This is where the inner child healing and rebirth come in. You can become the grown person who holds your younger self with unconditional love, the way you wish you had been held. You can bless your life with the presence of love in all the challenges you will face, and you can integrate the challenges of your birth journey on a soul and body level.
You can also trust the choices your soul made to experience this life, even when you cannot see the plan.
What You’ll Receive
- Permission to stop fighting what is and to stop trying to make it different
- The truth that you have done nothing wrong, no matter what you have experienced
- The understanding that love is presence with what is, and not a reward for being good
- A felt sense that your fear, doubt, and trauma are not too much to be held
- The chance to hold your younger self with the unconditional love you wish you had received
- Permission to let go of who you thought you were so you can be who you are
Questions to Sit With
- Where am I pushing to make something happen while my body is asking me to stop?
- What am I afraid I will miss if I let go of control?
- What do I believe I have to get right in order to be held?
- What would change if I trusted that I have done nothing wrong?
- Who did I think I had to be, and what happens if I let that go?
- What would I give my younger self if I held her with unconditional love?
Back to the Place Where You Are Still Pushing
Think about the thing you are still fighting to make happen. What might open if you stopped trying to make it different and let yourself be held in not knowing? The full episode is a healing audio journey designed to restore your nervous system, and it is best heard somewhere you can relax and receive.
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